It is not what is lost that hurts the most,
It is the thing that takes its place –

– Jerome Kugan (The Myth of Displacement)*

I say the things that try to take the place of what is lost – yet fail to do so, or even come close  –  are what hurt the most. They bring back memories…..which often are more legend than reality – the perfect bloke he never was, the doting girl she never would have been, the manipulating mofo everyone but you could see…..

I say Memories are like wounds kept raw by the rub of a blunted saw.

–  Sigh

* From the poem “The Myth of Displacement” from Dance the Guns to Silence – Nii Ayikwei Parkes and Kadija Sesay (Eds)